“I think my partner may have an alcohol problem” KZN Listener cries out for help

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On this weeks edition of the fixer, Stacey and JSbu received the following email from KZN listener Themba: I think my partner may have an alcohol problem, or should I say an unhealthy coping mechanism which is related to alcohol- I would not go as far as labelling her an alcoholic.

The story is, early this year she had to be retrenched from her dream job- everyone knows the deal with COVID and how many companies were struggling. Now, we live together and in our relationship I take care of the big bills and she takes care of the household bills such as groceries. She is in a bit of a slump as she tries to find a new job and is drinking almost every night, lunch and dinner and just before bed- she does not get necessarily wasted every day but her alcohol intake and the frequency is making me super uncomfortable.

How do I approach this conversation with her whilst still being loving and respectful? What advise would you have for Themba if you were in his shoes?
21 Oct 2020 English South Africa Society & Culture · Personal Journals

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