Clinical Psychologist and Sexologist chats to Stacey and JSbu

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How do you keep the spark, butterflies, and romance alive in a long-term relationship? aking your relationship a priority can seem like a daunting task, because life events always get in the way. There are the daily pressures of work, raising a family, and chores. Throw in a whole global pandemic and it literally seems like there is no time to give your relationship any investment.

The COVID-19 pandemic has also meant that a lot of couples have had to be cooped up with each other under one roof with no opt out option for an escape. Increasing annoyances and reoccurring arguments that do not create a loving environment have been the order of the day for many.

However, there are things you can do to combat those issues. Let's talk about sex..

For many people, sex is a very important component of any romantic relationship. In order to have great intimacy with your partner though, you need to feel more connected to your partner as it makes you feel cared for and comforted. Keeping your love life interesting over time can be a real challenge. Over time, people change both physically and psychologically, and life regularly throws us plenty of curve balls.

Your sex drive and your partners may also vary from time to time. For Stacey Norman, a big mistake many couples make is to believe that the natural attraction and sexual energy they enjoyed during early phases of their relationship will inevitably carry over, without any effort from both parties. For Stacey, this is simply a myth. Chemistry, like anything else in life, has the potential to die out unless it is worked on - and that is why it is important to make it a priority. The team spoke to Dr. Eugene Viljoen, a Clinical Psychologist and Sexologist who specialises in a range of disciplines, including sex therapy. Listen to his advice for couples who want to keep the flame burning:
3 Nov 2020 English South Africa Society & Culture · Personal Journals

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